Anyone who lives alone and manifests no longing to be in a relationship is in our times almost automatically viewed as pitiable.Moreover, they think that it is simply not possible to be at once alone and normal.This set us up for collective catastrophe,because it means that a huge number of people who have no wish to live with anyone else.Even worse,they are under press and pressure, then they are shamed into conjugal life(婚姻生活).No doubt that they are with disastrous results for all involved. Only once singlehood has completely equal prestige with its alternative can we ensure that people will be free in their choices.And hence,they can join couples for the right reasons because they love another person ,rather than because they are terrified of remaining single.

在這個時代,不想戀愛的獨居人士總被人默默視為可憐而有問題的人,人們認為單身絕對不可能是正常人。這使得一大撥人難以幸免,因為有很多人打心底不想和別人在一起。然而,很大一部分的單身人士卻迫于壓力,滿懷愧疚地發(fā)展戀愛關(guān)系甚至進入婚姻殿堂。最終雙方都落得傷痕累累。只有人們像重視婚姻一樣重視單身生活時才能保證人們擁有自由的選擇權(quán),以合理的原因投入一段感情,也就是“愛”而不是人們害怕單身。

We should recognize that romantic love,the idea of being deeply enamored with one special partner over a whole lifetime is a very new, ambitious and really pretty odd concept.From close-up ,over periods of time ,almost everyone is condemned to be pretty dispiriting and difficult.A good romantic marriage is evidently theoretically possible.It may also be extremely unlikely in practice.,which should make any failure feel a good deal less shameful.

我們應(yīng)該認識到:浪漫愛情也就是深愛著自己的那個人會矢志不渝,只是一個過分自信又奇怪的新生概念。時間一長,經(jīng)過仔細的觀察,就會發(fā)現(xiàn)每個人都難以相處,令人失望。顯然,浪漫婚姻在理論上可行,但卻難以在實際生活中實現(xiàn)。因此,戀情失敗也就情有可原了

Those among us who chose to stay single shouldn’t be thought unromantic.Indeed ,we may be among the very most romantic of all, because it is in the end the fervent romantics who should be especially careful of ending up in boring relationships.

選擇單身的人并非缺乏浪漫細胞,事實上,我們也可能非常浪漫。因為到最后,只有最浪漫的人才需提防自己和對方變得無趣。

Though it is a sign of some maturity to know how to love and live alongside someone, it is actually a sign of even greater to recognize that this is something that one isn’t in the end gotta be psychologically really capable of,as a good portion of us simply aren’t.In that cases, we retire ourselves voluntarily ,in order to save others from the terrible consequences ,or it is called bad ending.

學會去愛固然是成熟的體現(xiàn),但是意識到一段感情遠超自己的心理承受能力更能體現(xiàn)成熟,因為有些人的確承受不來。在這種情況下,我們主動選擇退出,使他人和自己免受傷害。這可能是一種偉大和善良的體現(xiàn)吧。

However, being alone means not inflicting ourselves on others.It spares us from constant reminders of how difficult and strange we are!No one is there to hold a mirror up-record your antics and constantly make you accountable for them. If you ‘re lucky, you will be able to tolerate and even like yourself if you are on your own.

單身后,你就不會老想著自己多么奇葩而不近人情。沒人會舉著鏡子,追蹤你的一舉一動,對你的所作所為指指點點。獨自一人時,你能忍受自己、喜歡自己。